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    請問有人知道人字下一束一橫怎麼唸?

    大大好:

    這兩個字分別怎麼唸?不太確定有沒有底下這個字 謝謝

  • Pushed into social isolation and since became socially retarded due to uncontrollable circumstances, what now?

    This is about my personal life experience:

    First 9 years of my life was fine after until then my family immigrated overseas to an English speaking country and I had a joyous three years settling down and settling in the cultural norm. After that my life became torrential. There was a series of moving back and forth. My grand dad died back in East Asia and so my family moved back for a year to see him cremated. That one move lasted for a year and I attended a local private school. Though I had no problems making friends but some people found me quite different but were kind and friendly to me. After a year, my family moved back to New Zealand. I was enrolled back to the same 7th grade and saw my same group of friends. However, after one year of absence, my friends changed or had moved on and we were not as closed as I wanted it to be. I felt I was somehow segregated by the group and I wasn't as fast on social reflexes as I was back then. I became a little bit disappointed and so I complained to my parents that I had lost friends. They asked me whether I wanted to change schools or go back to East Asia. I was adventurous and I chose to go back to East Asia. This time I was enrolled in a public school of a different area. I had to make new friends but the people I found in my new surrounding to be quite unaccepting of me. They were quite judgemental about how I was and picky on the little flaws I had. Since the initial encounter hadn't been pleasant and I discovered they were segregating me for being who I am. I felt anger and anxiety for being treated so harshly without knowing why. I did nothing wrong back then but was discriminated because of my differences. They had refused to be inclusive of me. I complained about this emotional abuse to my parents but there was nothing they could do to stop it. They had limited means for sending me back to New Zealand and I wasn't able to just change schools. The only option they had was to ask me to stay and be strong. I compromised and agreed that I will try to cope. It wasn't pleasant because each day I was made fun of. Though slowly the ridicule ceased but I was left without the feeling of trust that my world is the same. I couldn't trust to be friends with these people even though I tried. I was at my wits end and it was an oppressive environment. At least that was how I had perceived it. I didn't open up to these people and I felt I couldn't be myself because of the initial abuse. I had to be in that helpless situation for one and a half years before I go into High School. Back then the only way I thought of getting attention was being particularly good at academics. I was nearly always in the top 10 of the class. Yet I compromised because there was no other way. In high school, same situation occured. I just wasn't enjoying the environment I was in and I blamed it on cultural shock or on the abuse. I tried opening up to people but again other events led to a rejection of a girl and I became withdrawn ever since. Anxiety was crippling and it had consumed me. I managed to hang out with some of my girl friends since they were more accepting and were willing to listen. Still I did not believe they truly understood how I felt. Over time I grew more resistant to face the fact how the society operates. I just couldn't accept the norm and I thought I would go bonkerz if I continue being where I was if I hadn't left the country. I managed to finally pursuade my parents to let me leave and go back to New Zealand. I was an outcast of the society and that society had purged me out of it effectively. All those time I spent on academics. There was no life for me back then because all the time I would spend in pursuit of academic excellence. There was only competition and no other endeavors to make me feel better. Even though I was here now in New Zealand, I still felt underdeveloped as an adult. I'm 22 now and I still had crippling anxiety to just talk to people. I still have physical pain from the past abuse and resentment and all other emotional turmoils. I realised I have become slower in response though I had no problem comprehending other people and have a clear idea of what otehr poeple are talking about. But creativity was certainly stifled. I wonder how I could be able to integrate back to society without having to delve into the fact that I am underdeveloped. I felt stigmatized for being different again. I felt I don't belong anywhere and there is a slim chance that I will find the so called safe haven. Looking at my formative years, I had certainly suppressed myself and unable to be myself and hence I have underdeveloped. The abuse has programmed me into thinking that the world isn't a safe place and people aren't going to be accepting of me, people are only going to judge me etc...

    No one knows only I do and I keep this to myself because sharing this will only bring people to judge me and discriminate me.

    6 個解答Psychology8 年前
  • 該回台灣還是待在紐西蘭?

    各位大大好

    小的在台灣出生.小時後出國留學到紐西蘭待了4~5年

    .擁有了當地的公民身份.2003年回台因家庭因素.

    回國後就讀普通國中與高中,面臨極大的精神壓力.據我了解台灣普遍高中與國中都仍楚懵懂少年階段還沒什麼思想可言.(絕大部分)因為在國外,時間多了就會窩看課外讀物所以培養了一些西式思想.我在國外受西方文化的一切薰陶.所以在台灣我感覺地方是死的.雖然很便利食物便宜等.但畢盡是小島國家所以感覺大家的思想都很狹窄.工作與教育等等都是遵循一定的模式.不注重個人的發展.我很討厭如此的生活方式,又很討厭人情方面瞎起鬨又排擠.以人群的力量七戶弱勢的.把弱勢的歸諸一群.我當時就是那弱勢的一群.別人說我很自大,但我只是表現我的自信而已.他們不懂我在國外式多麼被重視的.多麼受歡迎.回到台灣許多心結都依職打不開.我討厭很多人都不願意跟我溝通.甚至我認為老師有辦法幫我解決一些心理上的不快.

    最後有些老師說我未長大思想未成熟.我認為他們是不懂我在台灣為何會遇到如此大的壓力.有時會為自己感到可憐因為沒有辦法交到能溝通的朋友.都是一些空無思想的書呆子或混混.高中勉強交到一些有思想的但我還是感覺一職無法接受.

    特別是台灣的補習風氣過剩.補了三科還有人不全科的我想他們是瘋了.不到最後不知道是為了什麼而讀的是為了考上好大學嗎?不是八是為了增進能力.讀書應該為自己的興趣唸才會有效率.真的不懂才去補習才對.但很多家長的觀念是學生在家裡太混才送去補習.的確再家很容易放蕩.但補習到最後許多事情看的越來越狹窄.上課越來越看不冠老師在那裡搞笑後來被噓.覺得學生變得好多好囂張.是學生不應該有的樣子.但這一切我暗示改變不了的.最後真的受不了待在這裡了.

    我認為我待在台灣會變得跟周昭同學一樣.被洗腦過一個朦朧的生活不知道在過什麼.雖然在國高中我對自己的要求很高.在國高中都保有佳績都幾乎全班前十以內沒什麼很大也可以第一從國中到高中也一樣.高中也是獨分發到的好學校(全國前11)父母認為我唸得好不應該出國的.在台灣應該可以考上好大學.但我越唸越沒信心直到高2升高3暑假一天補習我受夠了.父母答應我可以出國回紐西蘭.

    心理很高興但又有點捨不得畢近也待了4年在台灣.在高中裡我也喜歡上一些女生但沒有結果都只有壞的.被拒絕等等.心痛等等我了解當時我只是太直接我還沒成熟.我像小孩子一樣Naive.我又喜歡溝通喜歡訴說感情與感覺等等這些都跟一班男生不一樣.總之,有些女生我為了躲避吧我想而離開的都有很多因素.

    當時絕得離開台灣比較好.追求國際化追求自我的心靈調適追求興趣追求自學不想要框在補習.紐西蘭大學遠比台灣大學好在世界上好.在國外學英文增進競爭力.我現年18歲理應上大學了但因為反覆往來兩地而有降級就學的.

    於是我去了紐西蘭,誰知今年景氣開始不好.當時我們技術移民所以沒什麼經濟上的困難現在有了困難.父親的分析是:

    1.)他想回台灣,解除經濟的困難反而好轉. 回去重唸一個國三所以等於降2年. 配合當前的回流風潮.總之回來會過的很好他說.等經濟好轉再出國.但我一職很不願意面對回國的種種情況又要面對學測.

    2.)母親想監持下去直到我上研究所.如此的話就要賣2~3房子.我可能以後回台找工作就要租房子.紐西蘭難找工作.會有一段經濟困頓的時候.不知道我能不能面對.

    我向各位大大求救?? 該回台灣耶受學測還是待在國外努力. 任何意見都好. 學測現在回來不可能.只有指考了. 不知道有什麼保握.

    感激~ 感激~ 20 點送出去了

    5 個解答心理健康1 0 年前